Reblogged from sirsplayground
Love, Trust and Devotion
My Muse. Remarkable isn’t she? Perfect in my eyes and yet somehow better with each passing day. I gaze upon this picture and wander through the memories it evokes and cannot help but marvel that I should have ever been so fortunate to be graced by such a beautiful, intelligent, sensual, powerful yet submissive woman. She is my equal opposite. Different in so many, many ways, yet compatible. The perfect fiercely determined submissive foil to my gentle guiding Dominance.
In our own way, we drive each other. Hard. To be better, stronger, more successful, more sensual, more loving, more complete. As I drive her to be more submissive, she drives me to be more Dominant. We work each other hard because we want it all; we want everything the other has to offer and more. And along the way, we realize that indeed we are capable today of being so very much more than we were yesterday and that tomorrow we will be better still. We draw out strengths and abilities in each other we did not know we possessed.
But we do not just drive one another. We drive ourselves. We work hard for each other to be the best we can possibly be for the benefit of the other. Despite time and distance, day and night we are there for one another; giving, being present, caring. We support each other, not just as D/s partners but in life; with all the challenges, victories and disappointments that the journey of life brings to any person. We are there for one another. Always. In all ways.
So what does this have to do with D/s or BDSM? Absolutely everything. I was recently asked to describe my view of the essence of a D/s relationship in five words or less. The answer was easy; love, trust and devotion.
Look at the picture above and think about this for a moment. What would entice a beautiful, independent and intelligent woman to travel across a continent, strip off her clothes, don a leather collar and cuffs, and obediently and patiently present herself to be admired, taken, and used in the basest of manners all in response to a softly uttered command? Who does such a thing? And why?
The answer lies in the bond carefully and lovingly cultivated and nurtured between Dominant and submissive. This is not the product of a curious whim or sexual impulse, a hastily ill-conceived run at adventure or intrigue. This is the product of a year of emotional investment in a firmly rooted relationship. A bond forged of a gradually deepening love for another person, a willingness stemming from methodically and unwaveringly earned trust, and an utter devotion born of a powerful combination of that love and trust. This didn’t just happen. It has been earned. It has not always been easy but it has always been worth it.
My Muse and I began our relationship like many here on Tumblr as an online interaction. But unlike many, we did not jump immediately at one another as potential Dominant and submissive but rather as two people who were exploring a common interest. We talked; about everything. Months passed before the notion of interacting as Dominant and submissive with one another even came up. The relationship predated the D/s. The love, trust and devotion began early, grew slowly, and has matured as our friendship, and ultimately relationship as Dominant and submissive has deepened. Today we are utterly devoted to one another in a way neither of us has ever experienced before. There is little we would not do for one another, and indeed those very few things are contained on a short list of hard limits.
We love one another deeply. We trust one another implicitly. And as a result, we are utterly devoted to each other; as people and as Master and Muse. She is Mine. And I am just as equally hers.
But that still doesn’t answer the question posed earlier, why would we act in this manner? Why travel so far, kneel so low, be collared and give oneself so completely to another? When asked, my Muse responds it is because she feels; because when we are together in the special way that we are, she feels. Everything. I make her feel, absolutely everything. And what allows me to do that, and allows her to be open and accepting of it, is the depth of love we have for each other, the absolute and unwavering trust we feel in each other’s hands, and the gratitude and sense of utter devotion we have for the presence of the other in our lives. Together we are whole and we are able to be the selves we have always wanted to be…not the ones we usually are. How can anyone be anything but profoundly grateful for the opportunity to feel so complete and comfortable with one’s self and another?
Whether it is cuddling or flogging, denying orgasms or making our love, the depth, power and gratification of our D/s bond stems from love, trust and utter devotion to one another. I highly recommend it.
Caption and Image © For The Love of a Submissive, 2013